What happens when you find yourself wanting to mold or reshape your partner to fit your personal expectations or ideals? You may imagine that if you are able to change aspects of your partner, you will finally be in the perfect relationship or have all your desires affirmed through this person.

Is my partner good enough? Relationships can be complex, intertwining love, admiration, and sometimes uncertainty. A common question we may grapple with when feeling frustrated with our partner is, “Is my partner good enough?”

Boundaries is a topic that is frequently discussed in therapy. I think most people have an idea about what they are and that they’re important, but how to implement and maintain them is often a challenge. There are whole books written on this topic. This piece of writing is just intended to get the conversation started.