You’ve seen the TikToks, the Instagram reels, and the countless online posts labeling people as “narcissists.” These videos and posts often frame narcissism as a toxic personality trait, a sign of selfishness, or an explanation for every disappointing relationship. While some of these observations have truth, the reality is more nuanced. Narcissism is not simply about selfishness or arrogance. It is both a natural part of human development and, in its extreme forms, a clinical condition.